Live Life !!

We all count the investments we made in our life , the returns that we are earning out of it. We are so busy earning money that we are constantly in the process of knowing how and what should we do so that we can earn more, live a better lifestyle, have a luxurious life . We start from the initial level that's education, forgetting the entire purpose of education we use it as a tool to earn wealth. But what next, and where does this end ? The answer is no where , we tend to ignore the biggest fact of life and that is to live our life, life is much beyond inhale and exhale of oxygen , its all about creating wonderful moments , to cherish them, live life with your loved ones, make mistakes , learn from your mistakes and move ahead , laugh on your mistakes nothing wrong in it , we are humans and we are bound to make many of them. Move out of your comfort zone and try something adventurous where you may not earn dollars but for sure some beautiful experience . At the end of your life dont count your dollars count your memories , trust me it will bring a bigger smile on your face .

Mummy and Me

Dear Mom, I don't need any special day to thank you , because you have not waited for special day to help me, to nurture me and be with me, you are all the time exclusively and unconditionally available for me and that's what makes me write this for you . The word Thank You stands no where if I compare to all what you have done for me and are doing till date but still , I thank you from the bottom of my heart for being there with me , for knowing all what my heart says even before I convey it to you, you not only read my mind but also read my heart. Thank you for all those instant solutions and the expert advice given by you when they were needed the most. Above all, thanks for listening to me patiently, to motivate me and for believing in me all the time. Thank you for everything once again !! You mean the whole world to me :) Lots of Love, Vidhi :)

Let go !!

The best way to stay happy is to let go !! Easier said then done but that's the only way how you can keep yourself at peace and live this life in a beautiful way. The reason why people feel negative is because first, we cannot let go things in life, we hold on to things even when we know that its not in our control, rather then working on it we just sit and worry about it , don't we ? Second, we expect a lot from this universe, we expect all good deeds to come back to us immediately, we want all the success immediately , we expect that we never fall into any awkward situations in life and always have a fairytale like life , but, that's not possible and that's what we need to tell ourselves. Our life is not a fiction story, it is a real life where the author is none other but our own set of karmas performed by us. Whichever century we cross, whatever gadgets we use in our life the theory of karma will always remain the same . We need to do good deeds , expect less from this universe and have to let go things that are not in our control. Remember one thing, no one is fully satisfied in his life , a beggar starves for a single meal and a rich man walks miles to digest a meal !!!

God's painting for me

You have made a beautiful painting ( imagine a plan of your future ) and then someone comes there ,( imagine god) looks at your painting , takes the brush from your hand and intervenes , changes the colour combination, erases few objects. You get pissed off as the plan looks completely different from what you imagined, not even close to your imagination, you cry, you beg in front of that person, you even get furious and feel everything is destroyed but he continues his work without even bothering about your reaction. You get depressed , you loose hopes, feel like everything is destroyed and dont even look at what he is creating and then suddenly he comes and gives you your painting and says, take it ,its all yours now. Now the one that you are holding in your hand is so wonderful, pleasing and attractive , moreover much better and beyond your imaginations to what you were planning for your painting . This is what God does everytime .

Instant Karma....Not always Instant !

Social media is full of quotes and videos that speak about karmas, our karmic account, good deeds etc. Latest of all is INSTANT KARMA this one is widely accepted, or let me put it this way, highly shared and liked among the new generation. Well, to be very honest it does not work that way and its not instant. Yes, its not a packet of noodles, it's your own karmic account and it has a cycle . There are videos uploaded on social media that shows some silly acts like a man pulling another one and due to this act he falls into his own trap and instead of the other guy falling down, he falls down and hurts himself. Good thought, but unfortunately it does not happen so instantly. A human being when gets into the activity of performing negative karmas for his own benefits and decides to harm other humans or any living creature he gets success at the beginning phrase, he gets the confidence and here is when karma tests him. Yes, he gets all the success in the beginning, here, if he realises his mistake and regrets, good for him, but normally it does not happen. Later, when he reaches to the peak of his success karma plays it's role. This is the time when he pays for all the negative karmas performed by him, because it's only when you loose something that you love the most you realise your mistakes. It's all about the pain that you feel post loosing all that's close to your heart. Karma is a cycle which no one can escape, it comes at the right time and not at your time . Vidhi Majithia

Recipe for happiness

We all run behind this word , we all love to have this feeling in our life , we never show exit to happiness , we want god to give us happy moments unconditionally , because “Happiness is the meaning and the purpose of life, the whole aim and end of human existence”
Let us start with the basic ingredients for this recipe, a whole lot of positivity in your mind is the core ingredient to be happy, now, I know its easier said than done to get a whole lot of positivity, the question here that would arise by the scholars will be that if the person has so much of positivity in his mind he will not be unhappy.
So the way to happiness is through positivity. You know when I was a child, somewhere around three or four I was the favorite amongst all my family members because I was the youngest and obviously I was the cutest as all fall under the category of "cute" until they are under the category of “Kids”. You know the reason why I was happy? I never compared myself with others or I would say I was too young to do such comparisons - others did but I did not care , I remember the moment I started worrying about the thing like with whom I am compared , why I m compared ,for what reasons they are doing and how to overcome etc . I forgot myself. The moment I forgot myself , I started living like others , I started pleasing others , did what is acceptable in the world rather than doing something that would bring happiness to my life .I was successful , people liked me , they respected me ,but , I was not happy , I thought , I got all what I wanted still , y I m not happy ? Then I got an answer, I did all what is acceptable in this world, but, I did not do anything to please myself !!!
This is not what I wanted from my life; this is not what I wanted to do. Painting was my passion. But I am a CEO of a MNC , this title does not give me that smile or that spark in my eyes that I get when people praise my paintings , I feel content , I feel satisfied , I feel complete , and most important I feel "HAPPY" , when I paint . Its not like whatever I have done in my life have done it unhappily, but , everyone has one certain passion and it can be anything, it can be any weird thing on this planet and its only you who knows about it very well so go for it , do something crazy , do something that will bring smile on your face , don’t give a damn to this bloody world, forget each and every problem , each and every liability , every tension , each stress, forget your boss who is sitting inside and watching you each and every moment , just live your life for one day the way you like , they way you wanted .
Once you get the feeling of happiness, positivity will have to come behind happiness.
There is one main task you need to do in your life, this word “positivity" has to be marked with permanent marker in your heart, soul and mind. You need to understand one thing that nothing is permanent in life, nor failure neither success. Each of them has equal share in our life , There would be times when you would be experiencing the best days of your life , may be you must be feeling that you are on the top of this world and wish that you remain there for your entire life . At the same time, the darker side of the life is also inevitable, and honestly after reading this if you feel yes I have gone through both such times trust me this is something very normal and has been faced by Every individual, so let the darker side come and go but you should be strong enough to sustain your positivity in each and every period. When you get the feeling of failure in your life , you recollect the days of your achievement , the days when you were counted as one of the best amongst others ,and this is what you should say to yourself “Its the same person , its the same effort its just not the same period that’s it ...!! “May be someone else who was experiencing a tough time earlier is having a good time right now. Its a vicious circle and everyone has to go through it sooner or later.
I hope you must have understood that, happiness is not something that we can buy or achieve, its something within ourselves to be precise it should be like, “ever since happiness heard your name, it has been running through the streets trying to find you.”

No love / arranged Marriage its time for " Wise marriage "

"इश्क बेदर्दी म्जुह को पता है ..इसकी चाहत में मिलती सजा है .... बेकारी में मरर ही न जाऊं ..... ना समाज को में कैसे समजाऊ “All this is now just a part of entertainment and love is only found in history  ..." आज कल टाइम किसके पास है प्यार करनेका ... मुझे तो मस्त एकदम टिकाव & show piece type Wife चाहिए ...." This is what I hear from some of the prospective grooms in my latest profession. For me this is a complete different experience. I have convinced people to buy investment, to pay off their liabilities but never convinced anyone to get married. It sounds amusing but this is one of the most interesting profile I have ever come a crossed. First day , when I was new to this world of matrimony I thought after selling the most toughest product like Insurance this will be a cake walk , but , I confess today , that was a wrong perception I had . Because, here it’s emotional selling. These people have everything in their life except spouse & to some extent they are solely responsible for their loneliness. They spend most of their time behind their career and had paid least or no attention towards their personal life when it was required and now blame all possible events, person etc for their late marriage. Trust me , within these 6 months I have met  so many "Shaadi Pagal " ( yes , I call them shaadi pagal ) people that now if some one comes to me within 15 minutes like a doctor I can analyze the reason why is it getting delayed and prescribe him some tonics (read tonic as necessary changes that needs to be done in his personality ) so that he/she can get married ASAP . No intention to boost myself but this is the fact and this is actually what I have learned in my latest job. Most amazing fact that I have learnt is there is nothing like Arrange marriage or Love marriage, infact, there is a new concept developed "Wise marriage”. A pure balance sheet is prepared and people analyze where there is profit and where there is a loss .

 1st example, If 1 girl is pursuing her Post Graduation or if she can be a decent home maker in future     and 2nd is already a Post graduate then go for 2nd one. "Income flow will be much faster!!! Think positive.... मेरी home loan है यार.... If she will start giving output soon it will be easier & 2nd thing , if I am getting a readymade Post graduate girl why should I waste money and time behind the one  who is still pursuing , may be she will change her mind in future and I will have to bare the loss . They have a beautiful definition for home makers and that is " the one who helps me to make my home (read financially) "....Caste जाने दो यार .... Hardly matters , Its high time now I need to settle down in Mumbai . I am 27. "

We literally pity such kind of people. I really respect those people who value education, the one who values females and treat them equal, trust me a female never has any objections to support her better half financially during bad times and there are lacs of females doing this right now and as per the growing inflation rate the number of working females will increase day by day, but, what irritates most is greediness. If you want her to do all this for you, respect her views, respect her decisions, give her some space, allow her to decide on her career, give her the liberty to take the decision weather she would like to work for her entire life or only till the crucial period. Don t judge her only on the basis of her degrees. There are lacs of females earning more than 50K on basis of only Graduation and that to at very respectable positions. There are various fields & Sectors like Sales, BPO (not only voice process, remember BPO is a huge Industry and has various process), to some extent in banking and financial sector too and many more decent jobs .There are people who do not accept self - employed females, for obvious reasons.  But people do not wish to think so much. They just want lucrative degrees and handsome salary from their wives so that liabilities could be paid off easily.  These kinds of people actually deserve fantastic professional life, truly they are excellent professional, but, as far as their personal life is concerned...... "Its better I don t say anything”. But, here I will not blame only boys, there are females too who force guys to think in this manner. Over ambitious girls , one who gives priority only to their career will love such kind of guys because they do not like joint families , they feel taking this financial burden is easy rather then taking the burden of In laws .

2nd example, beauty , how can one forget this as this is one of the most ancient and most ever green requirement in matrimony purpose , but , here I saw  various colours in this requirement . I have one customer, well qualified, one of the most reputed businessman (would not like to name here) in their community, very rich family. But they had a very wired requirement , location no bar , caste no bar , no issues with education ( under graduate is also fine , even though his son is an MBA ) , financial status is not required a middle class girl will also do or someone even lower , nothing matters only one thing matters "Beauty " , she should have sharp features , that’s it , and most important guy does not have any say in this . Its family who decides , yeah , show off will be all done , they will sit for a meeting together and discuss all relevant and irrelevant topics but that will be least considered , "Vidhi उसको क्या पता चलेगा , वोह तो बच्चा है ... " . I said, " yes Uncle , 28 yrs का बच्चा ही  तो हुआ " (obviously in my mind ). I have lacs of such high class people's profile who run blindly behind beauty . This is life ....thats it . They feel they are rich they can get best of the best , and as per their definition beauty is the only quality , nothing else is required .

3rd example, these are simply called " sample piece " , because they themselves don t know what they want from their own life , forget expectations from spouse . Sometimes they themselves are so confused about themselves they don t know what exactly they are searching . Initially they register saying they are very strict about their caste , show themselves as very decent and sophisticated people . But , within few days we come to know that its all show off , they are so frustrated and fed up with their own lives that they are fine with anybody and everybody but not a single person on this planet is ready to marry them . The reason is their nature, that’s it . They have this non adjustable, suspicious nature, false ego, etc etc . These kind of people who go for Personalized services, because , here they feel they have hired someone who will be responsible if they do not get married , because , otherwise there is no one who takes their non sense but here they feel they can speak in any weird way just because they have paid . Once, my customer was rejected due to the reasons mentioned above and the reason she said is “There is a fault in my relationship manager, a relationship manager should always be a  psychologist .  she should have selected a guy for me , she does not understand the process of marriage as she is just 23 ( commonly said by people who get no other reason to blame the company , relationship manager is too young ), if she would have selected a right candidate I would have not wasted my time " . I felt like saying " Sure madam , from last 36 years you are wasting your time because of me , right ? , U don t know about your caste as your parents are both from different caste and you don t understand either of culture , but still you expect a person who belongs from your native , how intelligent , isn't it ?  one more thing , at this age also you feel you will not be comfortable staying with in laws and you dont hesitate to speak all this in front of the prospective groom and still you feel someone will accept you and will welcome you ? , I think madam you need to decide who actually needs a psychologist. "

Some also say , I got rejected because of this relationship manager , she does not have effective communication skills and must have failed to explain my profile to the prospective groom , agreed madam , I said , your extra ordinary profile does not allow me to use my communication skills , your pics with micro mini shorts and tight t shirts and the stylish way you have mentioned in your profile that you enjoy partying till late night , its still my fault that i did not convince the person to marry you . You are absolutely right madam . At the age of 30 also you are so enthusiastic and energetic . I still remember the way she said "what's wrong with my pics ? People are very modern now a days everyone wants an extra ordinary beautiful girl , and thats what I am . " I salute your confidence madam , what else I can say ?

But , If I add all this and If I don t add those excellent people in this post it will be very unfair , yes , there are some pure and true souls also , the one whose marriage genuinely get delay either due to social responsibility , some unavoidable circumstances in family or some other reasons , but , they are real gem of a person and we as a part of matrimony team actually wish that they get best of the best person and live an excellent life after their marriage because they actually deserve nothing else but the best in this world . I have seen old parents coming to my center and genuinely worried about their children , they trust us , we feel satisfied when we help them and this builds trust , love and respect for each other. There are cases where we personally give guarantee about the girl / boy only after seeing such kind of decent people . What these people need is just a shoulder to rely upon , and we as a team feel its a pleasure to cater such kind of true souls , it is more then just a job , its humanity . Just because of such kind souls I feel satisfied at the end of the day , their smiles and lovely blessings that they shower on me motivates me to work for them .

Lastly , no negative feelings for any one , its after all their own lives and may god give the best of the best to everyone .