Just a week was left and I was all set to marry Ria and start our new life. I got a text from her “ I need to meet you Shyam”. It was a simple court marriage we had planned for. Later in the evening we met at our regular coffee shop, same place where it all started for the first time. She was in a different mood, I missed the excitement and happiness in her eyes that normally any girl would have when she is so close to her wedding day. She was not comfortable, something was bothering her too much.“I am done, I cant take it anymore.” She complained, “ what's wrong, what you cannot take anymore?” I asked, “You” she said, “ I cant marry you, we are just not made for each other, we are not compatible”. She said all this in one go, as if she wanted to get rid of me and I was holding her back . She had high career aspirations and was doing extremely well in her career. We both were successful in our career in “our own way”. Yes, what I mean by our own way is that we had a different definition to achieve our goals, but little was I aware that this would come in between our relationship shattered me to the core.
Post completion of my engineering and MBA I started working for an American MNC. I always wanted to be my own boss, hence started my own venture, but it takes time to settle when you move out of your comfort zone and start something of your own. Yes it was a risk and I was ready for it, probably she was not. We were dating each other since 2 years, things were good at start but I noticed her insecurities when I discussed my plan to start my own venture but I ignored it and assumed things will be fine as time would pass, also, I was confident about my skills and talent to start my business. This is what was making her insecure. Insecurities, fear was understood, but a drastic step of break up for this reason was difficult for me to digest. Time and again I was thinking the same thing that she did not trust my capabilities and my talent to handle things. It was all over, I tried to convince her, explained her but guess she had made up her mind and nothing was left for me to do . I had to let her go.
The date skipped from the calendar just as a casual day and many more such dates skipped , months and later a year. Her last words were still hitting my mind and this made me hard like a stone. My concentration was only at my work. My mom, who is a single parent insisted me to get married and got tons of proposals but I denied as the thought of getting into a relationship itself was stressful for me. I always had an opinion that knowing someone well in advance is better then getting into a pure arranged marriage, but after all what had happened I had lost interest in knowing someone and moreover I had lost interest in the concept of marriage, because all I believed in did not happen.
After lots of discussions and arguments with mom about me to settle down finally I agreed for an arranged marriage. I agreed to marry Kavya. This was a new beginning of our Life, we hardly knew each other, we met for good 2to 3 times and things were final. There was just one thing I told her “ Its a new relationship we are starting with, I am ok to tell you my past before we go ahead, but, I do not wish to carry any kind of baggage in my new relationship.” She said, “ Lets start on a fresh note, let us both not discuss about past , lets not dig it, instead, speak only about present and future”. I asked her “you would be spending your entire life with me, dont you wish to be aware about all what I was in past ?” she replied , “ We both have lived our life separately till now, we have met so many people in our life, we must have had so many good and bad moments and we have handled it in our own way. Rather then knowing about what could have happen, what went wrong and why were we not able to change it will make no difference to our present life, so why to start knowing about each other with past and judge each other. I am sure we have many more good things to discuss and know each other rather then discussing all that’s gone and not a part of our Life anymore.” I loved this attitude of her. One thing I understood from her is things are never permanent in life be it good, bad or worst. It’s all on us about how we look at it. I loved the way Kavya took efforts for our relationship and that made me do more to make it stronger. I forgot Ria. She was a closed chapter for me, not only in my life but also in my mind. Since it was not love marriage in the beginning what worked out for us is the trust, respect and positive approach. Love followed eventually.
Today we have a five years old daughter and things are good. I have understood that It does not matter since how long you have been knowing each other and it’s not always true that strangers cannot be good partners. For every relationship the correct approach, acceptance of the person as they are, trust and positivity is all that matters. This creates a bond which would never fade. I have no regret for all that happened because I would have never got a chance to meet a gem like Kavya who brought so much of positivity in my life and I firmly believe all that happens, happens for a reason.
