Wednesday, September 1, 2010
No love / arranged Marriage its time for " Wise marriage "
Monday, May 31, 2010
I keep saying this word "Destiny"..........
There will be several people who will oppose this by saying , " You cannot get anything in this world without putting efforts ...... not putting adequate efforts and then blaming destiny is a sign of a person who is not confident about himself and most important who does not wish to accept the fact that he is incapable and does not wish to change himself " This has been heard by me from those people who strongly oppose destiny . First of all , hats off to these guys , because this means people who do not believe in destiny are those who believe in themselves which is an excellent quality and which is actually very useful for a person to become successful in their life. But , the only thing I wish to say is , for example , if we take a normal MBA entrance exam , there are approximately 10 lacs (or may be more) who appear for these kinds of exams , but hardly 1 % people will mange to actually get admission in the top most B schools and the rest either drop or prefer the B or C level B schools option and then easily blame destiny for their failure . Well, I do not support them who actually got an admission in B or C level B schools because there it can be easily figured out that there is a lack of effort , but my argument is for those people who actually managed to get a call from a B school but , later on were not able to make it up to finals . Here, destiny plays a huge role , because in spite of putting lots of effort a student not getting selected just because his personality was not good enough to impress the management team , or may be a candidate getting too nervous at the last moment and fails to get an admission is all because of destiny . Its because you are running behind something thats actually not made for you , something which is not stored in for you . Because , here in spite of putting endless efforts the results will never turn positive. So now , the question arises is that what about the people who actually got success in their life and how come they got it and did not make any wrong decision or why it was like no wrong steps were taken by them during the entire task ? definitely , efforts play an important role , but more than that is luck factor , since it was stored in his destiny the situations became favourable , the time was always correct , the efforts were rightly taken etc etc , because ultimately it was meant for him and he ought to receive it . If there would be nothing like destiny in this world then everyone would have become either a High Profile business tycoon or an IIM A student , then there would have be no followers of god , and it would be a straight calculation of efforts towards success, but guys , life is not so easy always .........इसमे भी उपरवाले का बोहोत बड़ा calculation है ...... think if we all would have been born with that crystal bowl and could have been capable enough to find out about our future then would have been our life so interesting and creative as it is today ?
Now , the next thing is Astrology , I would really like to add this because in to days world more than 60 % of us believe more in man-gal and Shani rather then believing in ourselves , just because my man-gal is not good I will not perform a certain action for a limited period of my life as it is advised by one of the most knowledgeable astrologer . These is specially for those who believe that astrology will actually help them to change and get better things in their life i.e. they feel they can get a power to change their future . But , it is a completely wrong interpretation of word astrology , I do not say that I do not believe in astrology, but to believe in astrology more then our self is frankly speaking nothing more but pure stupidity. Astrology is something which gives you a rough idea about your future but cannot assure you anything about your future , astrology has powers that to some extent can bring happiness to your life temperately but ultimately its you who need to work hard and get the most out of your life . As said by one of my friend who is a scholar in astrology said , " Happiness and sorrow are part of your life ,it is a cycle which continues till the end of your life if you are sad , to certain level with the help of astrology and other superior powers you can change the order of your happiness and sad moments , but mind you , only to some extent and only the order of the same for a temporary period but, ultimately you need to actually face each and every moment sooner or later in your life......" .
So, lastly its all about our mindset and our thought process that how much do we trust on our self and how much does the other factors influence us .
After a long time ......
I use to love writing since I was in school , but , never took it seriously , later , as the time started moving and when I got myself engaged with other responsibilities of my life I almost forgot writing, or I should say I forgot that I know writing. Then before few months I came across to this medium , wherein I can write whatever I feel in my mind and the whole world can read it . Awesome !!!!
I know by now my friends must be really really bored so would not make them more unhappy by extending this post further . Would just like to thank all my friends for their love and support they gave me till date .
Thank u Guys !!!!! .
Saturday, September 5, 2009
Today I wanna say something..........!!!!!!
“See, do you know more than 45% of India's population work in this call centre, I agree, as a sister, as a well wisher you will always feel that your brother does something that’s very unique, intelligent, outstanding etc etc and you are not all wrong if you think like this. Agreed, when compared to profile of an Investment banker, Fund manager, HR head, marketing and Advertising head etc etc this profile has no learning involved in it. But, just to ignore saying this industry has no growth is something that’s completely wrong. Its not only our degrees and our experience that will lead us towards success, definitely they do and they are very important for our professional lives, but, something that’s more important than all this is our self motivation, our aggressiveness, our determination towards our goal in our lives. Pooja I have 2 good friends working in a leading BPO and would like to tell you their success story in short. They both joined as an agent some 5 yrs before in a leading call centre of Mumbai, started their part time MBA and today one of them is a UNIT HEAD managing a unit of 100 agents for a particular process and when a profile includes management of a group of people there is no need to include that the complete responsibility about the quality of service rendered and being an out bound process also the revenue earned from his team. And my second friend, he got shifted to the administration department as he wanted to start his own call centre so wanted to get trained in every possible aspects of BPO. And, today he started his own BPO, successfully managed to achieve projects of couple of leading companies of UK and AUSTRALIA. Defiantly at the early stages it has to be out bound but that’s something which can be made vast later on, isn’t it? Dear BPO is a vast industry, call centre is just a part of it, each and every companies need to outsource their work due to several reasons like to concentrate on the main core business, efficiency, higher profit motive etc etc. Now, can you imagine your brother going to UK for business trips and a CEO of a leading call centre? Or at a very respectable position of a leading BPO? Would you still react in a similar manner the way you reacted today?
I have still not completed pooja. I still need to clear your doubts you have regarding the knowledge and other aspects of Callcentres. All these high profile people in our society, with their high profile jobs and their extra ordinary qualifications feel that they have got a license to speak any thing and everything for those people working in callcentres. Sorry If I am sounding rude this time, I have no intentions to speak anything negative about the high educated people in fact even I respect them because of their intelligence, their self motivation and their determination towards their work. They are actually role models for the upcoming generation but, just because they are blessed with superpower full position and degree they do not get a license to speak anything that hurts or ruins any ordinary men's image in the society. How easily they say," what’s the learning in a call centre? , now I want to ask them a simple question our older generation more then 50% were into the retail business of sales of stationary, grain merchant(retail), cloth merchant(retail) , fast food stalls etc, now can anyone please explain me what have they learnt in their entire professional life ?
Or I should say they have a PhD degree in sales of stationery items, selling books and pencils, selling icecreams, selling sarees and kids wear. In fact I have heard people saying" kya margin wala line hai ...bosss....kitna chaapta hai ". So now where is the learning? In fact they were known as respected businessman. What I am trying to convey is, up to certain age learning plays a very important role and if you are lucky enough you learn and earn for your entire life but, after a certain age there are responsibilities where you need your money, not your knowledge. What will a 27yrs old guy feed his son? Food or knowledge?
Still I am not done Pooja, you gave a pathetic reaction on Night shifts, are you aware about the profiles of nurses and ward boys in hospital, airhostess, people of hotel industry, people in army, air force.....do I need to speak anything more on this ? I think you are smart enough to understand, aren’t you ?
One more thing, Drugs, night life, alcohol.....still in your mind right? Pooja, all the people who are working in BPO are above 18. Do you understand the meaning of above 18? ADULT, ADULT who is mature enough to take his own decisions, who has a right to vote and when we talk about adults we should not forget that they need to take there own decisions, let them learn from their own mistakes, let them see this world in their own, We cannot spoon feed them all the time. That’s all what I wanted to say; now you decide......"
Hey guys, I am neither trying to change everyone's mind, nor I am interested to become a politician, my aim is to convey the message of peace and to politely request each and every individual of the society to respect each other as they are, remember guys everyone is not born with a silver spoon, you need to earn that silver spoon and that requires not only hard work but also love and support from the society.
Saturday, August 1, 2009
LOVE
But, courtesy bollywood who feels and very proudly feels that they and only they can describe analyse and represent love, but, is it true ? Is that reel life love actually possible in our real lives ? but still we get carried away with all those reel life love stories but guys, LOVE is not just a physical attraction but much much deeper than a physical relation. Its all about committing ourselves to our partner for the rest of our lives, to be faithful towards our partner and most important is to respect our partner and accept him/her as they are.
But, In this modern and competitive world who follows all this,in fact I sometimes feels people do not understand the difference between their mobile phones and their girlfriends which changes as per the demand and requirements and everyone wants the latest model. There is one more important thing which I feel to add and I strongly feel that if its not added the topic would remain incomplete. There is one latest fashion in to days younger generation and that's break up ke baad friendship and again courtesy to our own bollywood. One of the latest and the most awaited movie love aaj kal displaays the same kind of relationship where a guy falls in love with a girl and suddenly they feel that they cannot remain happy together and happily end their relationship but, still remain very good friends with each other and unknowingly again get involved in the same kind of relationship with each other,but again there is a twist one partner suddenly realises the need to get married and again a breakup and a promise of no relation to make a happy married life but, suddenly 24 hrs post marriage bride realises that she is actually in love with her ex , how stupid is this now ? Just because you are beautiful, earn handsome salary and are very intelligent do u actually get a license to ruin any ones life ? yes, you are free to take your own decisions in life and can have a choice in your life but, you can never take anyone else for granted just because you yourself are not sure about your feelings in your life.
At the end of the movie everyone is happy ke hero heroine mil gaye but what about the guy who got married to that girl why is that love and sacrifice unidentified ? Isn't that true love ? Isn't that a true sacrifice ? I would like to add one more thing that I am not at all against the movie,in fact hats off to the director to make such an entertaining movie but, my only question is what after that ??? at the end of the day what message are we passing to our younger generations ??? to take people for granted specially who loves us truly just because we are not sure about our destiny ??? do think about it guys......
I would like to conclude it by saying that let the world be completely modern and full of the new technologies but, let the feeling of love remain as pure and as fresh as it was before. Let us not try and make it very comfortable and lavish as our other modern technologies.
Sunday, June 14, 2009
For my mom..........!!!!!!!!
Dear Mummy,
Mom, you must be feeling that what made me write this letter to you on this simple day. Yes I will call it simple day because there is nothing very important happening or going to happen in these days, but, I feel I don't want to wait for any such occasion to write to you and say what all I aways wanted to tell you. In fact, today I want to say all what I did not say when I was suppose to say it, sometimes because I did not understand the importance of what all you did for me and sometimes when I understood everything but had no words to appreciate you or just to say a "Thank you mummy !!" , mom sometimes I purposely did not say thanks because it required much much more then just a THANKS .
Sometimes it was not easy to understand what you wanted to explain, what all you wanted me to understand so that I could lead a better life than what I had but, may be it was because I was too young to understand. But, I appreciate you for each and everything you did for me this includes the most important and I should say the most precious thing you did for me and that is you were not only my mom but my dearest and closest friend I ever had in my entire life till now. You treated my like a friend and advised me like a mother and that's the only reason why I am so successful and most important I am so happy in my life, yes I am happy and you know why, all because of those recent things that happened to me and the way you supported me in each and every tough situation in life which I think you must have understood by now and know the reason why I did not mention in this letter, Its only because when it is a past it has to be forgotten.
Well, this was something very recent. But, I still remember those small mischives that I use to do and make you angry but trust me mom today it really makes me feel laugh and feel so proud that I have such a loving and caring mom. Hey, do you remember I was so crazy about your cosmetic items when I was in my Kinder Garden. It was so difficult for you to find new places always and hide them from me, but still I was smart enough to find them.....hahaahahha !!!! You know mom why was I so crazy about your cosmetic items ? It was because I wanted to be like you, whenever I use to see you using them I use to feel that If I apply this even I will be like you, because I always wanted to be like you Mummy...!!!!!! never found anyone more beautiful and charming then you. For me my mom was most beautiful, charming and yes "very cute" this is what I keep telling you all the time (very cute) because when my eyes look at you is not only the outer beauty but also the inner beauty of yours, the affection and care that you keep showering on me till date and which is very very precious to me than any other thing on this planet.
I agree I was not always an obedient child and sometimes was too stubborn but, there is only one word that I have to say for this "SORRY", sorry for all what I did against your wish. I know I am trying to be very kind towards myself by just saying sorry for all those time when I hurt you but the reason for just saying sorry is that I do not want to repeat my mistakes what I did when I argued with you for a wrong reason. But, trust me mom there was never an intention to hurt you, whenever we had a difference of opinion I might have ignored your opinion and must have moved forward but there was always a guilt feeling later in my heart.
Mummy do you know what I still miss the most? I remember those days when you used to embrace me in your arms while returning back from school, those moments will never come in my life again . I wish I could be so small today also and can enjoy the same kind of love and affection from you in that particular way. But I guess life has to move on and some of these moments can never be repeated but can be only cherished for the entire life. But, mom as I grew older I got a lovely and most important is that I got a most reliable friend with whom I can share everything which bothered me in my life, and you gave me the most successful solutions for each and every complicated problem of my life.
I think this letter of mine is too short to express my feelings towards you but still I feel I am happy that I got a chance to tell you all what I wanted to tell you my dearest Mom. I know I am trying to be little selfish but there is one more and probably last wish of mine to you and that is keep loving me the same way you did till today and support me always for the rest of my life. Correct me whenever I am wrong but, always be with me, I need your support for each and everything that I do in my life and once again thanks for everything.
Your loving daughter,
Vidhi......
Sunday, May 24, 2009
When I met someone.....................
but he did not stop, he again started as if he did not hear anything what I said.
" Do you want me to prove it, I challenge you that I know you better than you know yourself...dear I know you since you were in your kinder Garden, I always wished to play with you but you never asked me.....I still remember how beautiful and charming you use to look in your pink colour school uniform ............." and I was completely shocked that time "hey Mr. plz stop this non sense OK ............. you think by saying all this you will impress me, I don't entertain all this, plz stop all this and move away from here"
He was still smiling and said " you still don't believe me, I know and I don't blame you for this because it was always me who noticed you but u never noticed me anytime, you were always so busy with your own friends and your family that u never got that much of time to notice that someone is so concerned about u and cares for you than anyone else in this world. I was always there with you in your each and every happy and sad moments of your life, how can I forget that day when you scored highest in your college in 12th board and you were feeling so happy so satisfied as it was a dream come true for you, I had seen you working extremely hard and I should say you actually deserved it what u had received. Believe me I was very happy for you."
"Are you a CID officer or something ?????? or a professional romeo ???? who finds out everything about a girl and then tries to impress her using this type of polite and attractive language.........", I said. " hahhahahaha, I know how difficult you are and that's what makes you so special and different among those other girls." he said.
" OK fine, u claim that you know me since my childhood and about each and every precious moments of my life. So now tell me why it took so many years for you to come and tell me, if you really cared for me you would have come at that time itself............." but he interrupted in between " I always wanted to be close to you, always wanted to be your best friend but you never noticed me, whenever you were in need of someone you approached your friends your family but never me. I consoled myself that your happiness is more important than anything. But now I feel that I should tell you everything, then it is up to you whether you believe it or not .........."
"Do you still feel that I will trust you........." I said, but, somewhere in the corner of my heart even I wanted to trust him I don't know why but even though I was talking rudely to him I wanted to know more about him. I think it was because of all that he said so confidently. But I never showed this feeling on my face and he instantly said " You just pretending that you don't trust me .........but you have got many questions about me in your mind right ? don't hesitate ask me whatever you feel like asking ." and he smiled.
I was shocked " hey do u even read people's mind ? are you an astrologer or someone ?" I said. He said " Dear I said I know you...................I know what you think, what you like,what you dislike etc etc .........that's the reason why I claim so confidently."Then I smiled and I asked him "OK tell me your name" , he said, My name is ......................."
tring tring..............tring tring............ It was my mobile that was ringing '" hello Vidhi, where r u, I hope you are still not sleeping we need to be in time today at college mid term results are going to be declared yaad hai na...........ke bhul gai ..........", and I was smiling , I felt, I still wanted to be in that dream world but then it was disappeared I had lost that moment forever and a drop of tear came out of my eyes !!!!!!!