God's painting for me

You have made a beautiful painting ( imagine a plan of your future ) and then someone comes there ,( imagine god) looks at your painting , takes the brush from your hand and intervenes , changes the colour combination, erases few objects. You get pissed off as the plan looks completely different from what you imagined, not even close to your imagination, you cry, you beg in front of that person, you even get furious and feel everything is destroyed but he continues his work without even bothering about your reaction. You get depressed , you loose hopes, feel like everything is destroyed and dont even look at what he is creating and then suddenly he comes and gives you your painting and says, take it ,its all yours now. Now the one that you are holding in your hand is so wonderful, pleasing and attractive , moreover much better and beyond your imaginations to what you were planning for your painting . This is what God does everytime .

Instant Karma....Not always Instant !

Social media is full of quotes and videos that speak about karmas, our karmic account, good deeds etc. Latest of all is INSTANT KARMA this one is widely accepted, or let me put it this way, highly shared and liked among the new generation. Well, to be very honest it does not work that way and its not instant. Yes, its not a packet of noodles, it's your own karmic account and it has a cycle . There are videos uploaded on social media that shows some silly acts like a man pulling another one and due to this act he falls into his own trap and instead of the other guy falling down, he falls down and hurts himself. Good thought, but unfortunately it does not happen so instantly. A human being when gets into the activity of performing negative karmas for his own benefits and decides to harm other humans or any living creature he gets success at the beginning phrase, he gets the confidence and here is when karma tests him. Yes, he gets all the success in the beginning, here, if he realises his mistake and regrets, good for him, but normally it does not happen. Later, when he reaches to the peak of his success karma plays it's role. This is the time when he pays for all the negative karmas performed by him, because it's only when you loose something that you love the most you realise your mistakes. It's all about the pain that you feel post loosing all that's close to your heart. Karma is a cycle which no one can escape, it comes at the right time and not at your time . Vidhi Majithia

Recipe for happiness

We all run behind this word , we all love to have this feeling in our life , we never show exit to happiness , we want god to give us happy moments unconditionally , because “Happiness is the meaning and the purpose of life, the whole aim and end of human existence”
Let us start with the basic ingredients for this recipe, a whole lot of positivity in your mind is the core ingredient to be happy, now, I know its easier said than done to get a whole lot of positivity, the question here that would arise by the scholars will be that if the person has so much of positivity in his mind he will not be unhappy.
So the way to happiness is through positivity. You know when I was a child, somewhere around three or four I was the favorite amongst all my family members because I was the youngest and obviously I was the cutest as all fall under the category of "cute" until they are under the category of “Kids”. You know the reason why I was happy? I never compared myself with others or I would say I was too young to do such comparisons - others did but I did not care , I remember the moment I started worrying about the thing like with whom I am compared , why I m compared ,for what reasons they are doing and how to overcome etc . I forgot myself. The moment I forgot myself , I started living like others , I started pleasing others , did what is acceptable in the world rather than doing something that would bring happiness to my life .I was successful , people liked me , they respected me ,but , I was not happy , I thought , I got all what I wanted still , y I m not happy ? Then I got an answer, I did all what is acceptable in this world, but, I did not do anything to please myself !!!
This is not what I wanted from my life; this is not what I wanted to do. Painting was my passion. But I am a CEO of a MNC , this title does not give me that smile or that spark in my eyes that I get when people praise my paintings , I feel content , I feel satisfied , I feel complete , and most important I feel "HAPPY" , when I paint . Its not like whatever I have done in my life have done it unhappily, but , everyone has one certain passion and it can be anything, it can be any weird thing on this planet and its only you who knows about it very well so go for it , do something crazy , do something that will bring smile on your face , don’t give a damn to this bloody world, forget each and every problem , each and every liability , every tension , each stress, forget your boss who is sitting inside and watching you each and every moment , just live your life for one day the way you like , they way you wanted .
Once you get the feeling of happiness, positivity will have to come behind happiness.
There is one main task you need to do in your life, this word “positivity" has to be marked with permanent marker in your heart, soul and mind. You need to understand one thing that nothing is permanent in life, nor failure neither success. Each of them has equal share in our life , There would be times when you would be experiencing the best days of your life , may be you must be feeling that you are on the top of this world and wish that you remain there for your entire life . At the same time, the darker side of the life is also inevitable, and honestly after reading this if you feel yes I have gone through both such times trust me this is something very normal and has been faced by Every individual, so let the darker side come and go but you should be strong enough to sustain your positivity in each and every period. When you get the feeling of failure in your life , you recollect the days of your achievement , the days when you were counted as one of the best amongst others ,and this is what you should say to yourself “Its the same person , its the same effort its just not the same period that’s it ...!! “May be someone else who was experiencing a tough time earlier is having a good time right now. Its a vicious circle and everyone has to go through it sooner or later.
I hope you must have understood that, happiness is not something that we can buy or achieve, its something within ourselves to be precise it should be like, “ever since happiness heard your name, it has been running through the streets trying to find you.”

No love / arranged Marriage its time for " Wise marriage "

"इश्क बेदर्दी म्जुह को पता है ..इसकी चाहत में मिलती सजा है .... बेकारी में मरर ही न जाऊं ..... ना समाज को में कैसे समजाऊ “All this is now just a part of entertainment and love is only found in history  ..." आज कल टाइम किसके पास है प्यार करनेका ... मुझे तो मस्त एकदम टिकाव & show piece type Wife चाहिए ...." This is what I hear from some of the prospective grooms in my latest profession. For me this is a complete different experience. I have convinced people to buy investment, to pay off their liabilities but never convinced anyone to get married. It sounds amusing but this is one of the most interesting profile I have ever come a crossed. First day , when I was new to this world of matrimony I thought after selling the most toughest product like Insurance this will be a cake walk , but , I confess today , that was a wrong perception I had . Because, here it’s emotional selling. These people have everything in their life except spouse & to some extent they are solely responsible for their loneliness. They spend most of their time behind their career and had paid least or no attention towards their personal life when it was required and now blame all possible events, person etc for their late marriage. Trust me , within these 6 months I have met  so many "Shaadi Pagal " ( yes , I call them shaadi pagal ) people that now if some one comes to me within 15 minutes like a doctor I can analyze the reason why is it getting delayed and prescribe him some tonics (read tonic as necessary changes that needs to be done in his personality ) so that he/she can get married ASAP . No intention to boost myself but this is the fact and this is actually what I have learned in my latest job. Most amazing fact that I have learnt is there is nothing like Arrange marriage or Love marriage, infact, there is a new concept developed "Wise marriage”. A pure balance sheet is prepared and people analyze where there is profit and where there is a loss .

 1st example, If 1 girl is pursuing her Post Graduation or if she can be a decent home maker in future     and 2nd is already a Post graduate then go for 2nd one. "Income flow will be much faster!!! Think positive.... मेरी home loan है यार.... If she will start giving output soon it will be easier & 2nd thing , if I am getting a readymade Post graduate girl why should I waste money and time behind the one  who is still pursuing , may be she will change her mind in future and I will have to bare the loss . They have a beautiful definition for home makers and that is " the one who helps me to make my home (read financially) "....Caste जाने दो यार .... Hardly matters , Its high time now I need to settle down in Mumbai . I am 27. "

We literally pity such kind of people. I really respect those people who value education, the one who values females and treat them equal, trust me a female never has any objections to support her better half financially during bad times and there are lacs of females doing this right now and as per the growing inflation rate the number of working females will increase day by day, but, what irritates most is greediness. If you want her to do all this for you, respect her views, respect her decisions, give her some space, allow her to decide on her career, give her the liberty to take the decision weather she would like to work for her entire life or only till the crucial period. Don t judge her only on the basis of her degrees. There are lacs of females earning more than 50K on basis of only Graduation and that to at very respectable positions. There are various fields & Sectors like Sales, BPO (not only voice process, remember BPO is a huge Industry and has various process), to some extent in banking and financial sector too and many more decent jobs .There are people who do not accept self - employed females, for obvious reasons.  But people do not wish to think so much. They just want lucrative degrees and handsome salary from their wives so that liabilities could be paid off easily.  These kinds of people actually deserve fantastic professional life, truly they are excellent professional, but, as far as their personal life is concerned...... "Its better I don t say anything”. But, here I will not blame only boys, there are females too who force guys to think in this manner. Over ambitious girls , one who gives priority only to their career will love such kind of guys because they do not like joint families , they feel taking this financial burden is easy rather then taking the burden of In laws .

2nd example, beauty , how can one forget this as this is one of the most ancient and most ever green requirement in matrimony purpose , but , here I saw  various colours in this requirement . I have one customer, well qualified, one of the most reputed businessman (would not like to name here) in their community, very rich family. But they had a very wired requirement , location no bar , caste no bar , no issues with education ( under graduate is also fine , even though his son is an MBA ) , financial status is not required a middle class girl will also do or someone even lower , nothing matters only one thing matters "Beauty " , she should have sharp features , that’s it , and most important guy does not have any say in this . Its family who decides , yeah , show off will be all done , they will sit for a meeting together and discuss all relevant and irrelevant topics but that will be least considered , "Vidhi उसको क्या पता चलेगा , वोह तो बच्चा है ... " . I said, " yes Uncle , 28 yrs का बच्चा ही  तो हुआ " (obviously in my mind ). I have lacs of such high class people's profile who run blindly behind beauty . This is life ....thats it . They feel they are rich they can get best of the best , and as per their definition beauty is the only quality , nothing else is required .

3rd example, these are simply called " sample piece " , because they themselves don t know what they want from their own life , forget expectations from spouse . Sometimes they themselves are so confused about themselves they don t know what exactly they are searching . Initially they register saying they are very strict about their caste , show themselves as very decent and sophisticated people . But , within few days we come to know that its all show off , they are so frustrated and fed up with their own lives that they are fine with anybody and everybody but not a single person on this planet is ready to marry them . The reason is their nature, that’s it . They have this non adjustable, suspicious nature, false ego, etc etc . These kind of people who go for Personalized services, because , here they feel they have hired someone who will be responsible if they do not get married , because , otherwise there is no one who takes their non sense but here they feel they can speak in any weird way just because they have paid . Once, my customer was rejected due to the reasons mentioned above and the reason she said is “There is a fault in my relationship manager, a relationship manager should always be a  psychologist .  she should have selected a guy for me , she does not understand the process of marriage as she is just 23 ( commonly said by people who get no other reason to blame the company , relationship manager is too young ), if she would have selected a right candidate I would have not wasted my time " . I felt like saying " Sure madam , from last 36 years you are wasting your time because of me , right ? , U don t know about your caste as your parents are both from different caste and you don t understand either of culture , but still you expect a person who belongs from your native , how intelligent , isn't it ?  one more thing , at this age also you feel you will not be comfortable staying with in laws and you dont hesitate to speak all this in front of the prospective groom and still you feel someone will accept you and will welcome you ? , I think madam you need to decide who actually needs a psychologist. "

Some also say , I got rejected because of this relationship manager , she does not have effective communication skills and must have failed to explain my profile to the prospective groom , agreed madam , I said , your extra ordinary profile does not allow me to use my communication skills , your pics with micro mini shorts and tight t shirts and the stylish way you have mentioned in your profile that you enjoy partying till late night , its still my fault that i did not convince the person to marry you . You are absolutely right madam . At the age of 30 also you are so enthusiastic and energetic . I still remember the way she said "what's wrong with my pics ? People are very modern now a days everyone wants an extra ordinary beautiful girl , and thats what I am . " I salute your confidence madam , what else I can say ?

But , If I add all this and If I don t add those excellent people in this post it will be very unfair , yes , there are some pure and true souls also , the one whose marriage genuinely get delay either due to social responsibility , some unavoidable circumstances in family or some other reasons , but , they are real gem of a person and we as a part of matrimony team actually wish that they get best of the best person and live an excellent life after their marriage because they actually deserve nothing else but the best in this world . I have seen old parents coming to my center and genuinely worried about their children , they trust us , we feel satisfied when we help them and this builds trust , love and respect for each other. There are cases where we personally give guarantee about the girl / boy only after seeing such kind of decent people . What these people need is just a shoulder to rely upon , and we as a team feel its a pleasure to cater such kind of true souls , it is more then just a job , its humanity . Just because of such kind souls I feel satisfied at the end of the day , their smiles and lovely blessings that they shower on me motivates me to work for them .

Lastly , no negative feelings for any one , its after all their own lives and may god give the best of the best to everyone .

I keep saying this word "Destiny"..........

"वक़्त से पहले .... और तकदीर से ज्यादा किसी को कुछ नहीं मिलता" Its one of my most repeated lines , or rather I should say I am a strong believer of this particular saying . Yes , some might feel it as a negative attitude towards life , some might feel that only after putting insufficient effort in a particular task which results into a failure I say this to save myself .....maybe they are right , I feel they are right because its a fact that I cannot be right always. But, the fact is I believe in destiny . I feel God has already stored something for us , its just a task given to us to find out what is stored in our destiny , or rather that's the only duty we have , or to be more professional its a "Job Profile" which we need to perform during our entire life .

There will be several people who will oppose this by saying , " You cannot get anything in this world without putting efforts ...... not putting adequate efforts and then blaming destiny is a sign of a person who is not confident about himself and most important who does not wish to accept the fact that he is incapable and does not wish to change himself " This has been heard by me from those people who strongly oppose destiny . First of all , hats off to these guys , because this means people who do not believe in destiny are those who believe in themselves which is an excellent quality and which is actually very useful for a person to become successful in their life. But , the only thing I wish to say is , for example , if we take a normal MBA entrance exam , there are approximately 10 lacs (or may be more) who appear for these kinds of exams , but hardly 1 % people will mange to actually get admission in the top most B schools and the rest either drop or prefer the B or C level B schools option and then easily blame destiny for their failure . Well, I do not support them who actually got an admission in B or C level B schools because there it can be easily figured out that there is a lack of effort , but my argument is for those people who actually managed to get a call from a B school but , later on were not able to make it up to finals . Here, destiny plays a huge role , because in spite of putting lots of effort a student not getting selected just because his personality was not good enough to impress the management team , or may be a candidate getting too nervous at the last moment and fails to get an admission is all because of destiny . Its because you are running behind something thats  actually not made for you , something which is not stored in for you  . Because , here in spite of putting endless efforts the results will never turn positive. So now , the question arises is that what about the people who actually got success in their life and how come they got it and did not make any wrong decision or why it was like no wrong steps were taken by them during the entire task ? definitely , efforts play an important role , but more than that is luck factor , since it was stored in his destiny the situations became favourable , the time was always correct , the efforts were rightly taken etc etc , because ultimately it was meant for him and he ought to receive it . If there would be nothing like destiny in this world then everyone would have become either a High Profile business tycoon or an IIM A student , then there would have be no followers of god , and it would be a straight calculation of efforts towards success, but guys , life is not so easy always .........इसमे भी उपरवाले का बोहोत बड़ा calculation है ...... think if we all would have been born with that crystal bowl and could have been capable enough to find out about our future then would have been our life so interesting and creative as it is today ?

Now , the next thing is Astrology , I would really like to add this because in to days world more than 60 % of us believe more in man-gal and Shani rather then believing in ourselves , just because my man-gal is not good I will not perform a certain action for a limited period of my life as it is advised by one of the most knowledgeable astrologer . These is specially for those who believe that astrology will actually help them to change and get better things in their life i.e. they feel they can get a power to change their future . But , it is a completely wrong interpretation of word astrology , I do not say that I do not believe in astrology, but to believe in astrology more then our self is frankly speaking nothing more but pure stupidity. Astrology is something which gives you a rough idea about your future but cannot assure you anything about your future , astrology has powers that to some extent can bring happiness to your life  temperately but ultimately its you who need to work hard and get the most out of your life . As said by one of my friend who is a scholar in astrology said , " Happiness and sorrow are part of your life ,it is a cycle which continues till the end of your life  if you are sad , to certain level with the help of astrology and other superior powers you can change the order of your happiness and sad moments , but mind you , only to some extent and only the order of the same for a temporary period  but, ultimately you need to actually face each and every moment sooner or later in your life......" .

So, lastly its all about our mindset and our thought process that how much do we trust on our self and how much does the other factors influence us .

After a long time ......

Feels like a guest in my own house ..... :) . Writing something after a gap of almost 9 months , but frankly speaking was waiting for a good topic wherein I can express my views and most important is where I feel satisfied from within after writing . For me blogging is much more than a passtime ....I would say its a part of my life , its a platform where I can freely share my views with each and every person . It really makes me feel happy when I receive a comment in my scrapbook stating " It was good to read your blog ...... " . Blogging helped me to make new and most important valuable friends in my life . Anonymous people reads  my post and sends me beautiful comments and later on which turns into friendship is actually very amazing and interesting . People who must be reading this blog must be wondering that today since I have no good topic to write I have chosen to boost myself , but no, its not true, even I believe "Self praise is donkey praise" (some1 very close to me told this before many years ..... and I still miss him and his golden words ). Actually , today wanted to dedicate this special post to all my friends who always appreciated me & encouraged me to write a blog .

I use to love writing since I was in school , but , never took it seriously , later , as the time started moving and when I got myself engaged with other responsibilities of my life I almost forgot writing, or I should say I forgot that I know writing. Then before few months I came across to this medium , wherein I can write whatever I feel in my mind and the whole world can read it . Awesome !!!!

I know by now my friends must be really really bored so would not make them more unhappy by extending this post further . Would just like to thank all my friends for their love and support they gave me till date .
Thank u Guys !!!!!   .

Today I wanna say something..........!!!!!!

It was a normal day, infact a normal weekend, I was sitting in a coffee shop with my best friend, and we have been together right from our school days. We were busy discussing about our present lives, our schedules, work, social matters, politics etc etc. We generally love to share each and everything and I feel a coffee shop is a best place to meet up our pals. She started the topic after having a bite of chocolate cookie, "my younger brother Sameer, he has completed his graduation and u know what? He wants to join a Call Centre!!! Can u believe this" I said, "Pooja, It’s just a Call Centre, relax he is not planning to join any terrorist group and have no plans to became a terrorist. Why r u over reacting?"She intureppted,"Vidhi, what are you saying this? I can’t believe, how can you support someone who wants to work in a call centre? You know what is a call centre? night shifts, health problems, no social respect, high chances on him to be a drug addicted , have you not seen the guys out side the call centre taking drugs, smoking complete alcoholic people and at the end of the day what do they learn ? Nothing, complete zero. No B schools will consider any BPO experience, no companies will hire a person at a senior level on a basis of his Call centre experience.........nothing doing, he is a dumbo, he does not have any sense to take decisions, dad has already decided he will be giving MBA entrance exams in this last quarter and will go for an MBA and that’s final!!!!. “Pooja said all this without a single break and after listening to all this I just said 1 sentence, "Pooja, try once you can beat Shankar Mahadevan for breathless .....” She was looking complete blank, I was able to read her mind, she was angry on me, she was quite but her eyes said lots of things, the very obvious thing which I read is "Vidhi, I am discussing something so important and you are busy cracking jokes......" and this was the same sentence she repeated after 30 seconds, pooja said,"Vidhi, I am discussing something so important and you are busy cracking jokes....". I said, "no dear, I am busy reading your mind, I know you inside out, I know how you think and how you react on some particular topics in life, but, this time its not for you, Pooja remember you can suggest sameer, you can guide him but no one can force him, I know sameer, he is no more a kid, If he has decided something about his career he must have at least thought 10 times over it. ......"and she interrupted in between, no no no .... No Call Centre please, I can’t see my brother coming late night, alcoholic, nooo I cant imagine this....." I should say she is a melodrama queen, I picturised her in a 1970 type movie and saying a dialouge like 'nahiiiiiiiiii...........kehdo ke yeh jooth hai .......yeh nahi ho sakta.............yeh sab sunnne se pehle dharti maa ne mujhe apni godd mein kyun nahi sama diya..........' and then I could not control myself and started laughing, definitely I was a centre of attraction in the coffee shop but courtesy my thought process, I could not stop laughing. But I know she was angry and I apologized immediately I said, "Sorry Pooja, but now on a serious note, please don’t interrupt me in between let me complete, let me share my views my thoughts with you rest it’s your family matter and will not interfere." She said "OK".

“See, do you know more than 45% of India's population work in this call centre, I agree, as a sister, as a well wisher you will always feel that your brother does something that’s very unique, intelligent, outstanding etc etc and you are not all wrong if you think like this. Agreed, when compared to profile of an Investment banker, Fund manager, HR head, marketing and Advertising head etc etc this profile has no learning involved in it. But, just to ignore saying this industry has no growth is something that’s completely wrong. Its not only our degrees and our experience that will lead us towards success, definitely they do and they are very important for our professional lives, but, something that’s more important than all this is our self motivation, our aggressiveness, our determination towards our goal in our lives. Pooja I have 2 good friends working in a leading BPO and would like to tell you their success story in short. They both joined as an agent some 5 yrs before in a leading call centre of Mumbai, started their part time MBA and today one of them is a UNIT HEAD managing a unit of 100 agents for a particular process and when a profile includes management of a group of people there is no need to include that the complete responsibility about the quality of service rendered and being an out bound process also the revenue earned from his team. And my second friend, he got shifted to the administration department as he wanted to start his own call centre so wanted to get trained in every possible aspects of BPO. And, today he started his own BPO, successfully managed to achieve projects of couple of leading companies of UK and AUSTRALIA. Defiantly at the early stages it has to be out bound but that’s something which can be made vast later on, isn’t it? Dear BPO is a vast industry, call centre is just a part of it, each and every companies need to outsource their work due to several reasons like to concentrate on the main core business, efficiency, higher profit motive etc etc. Now, can you imagine your brother going to UK for business trips and a CEO of a leading call centre? Or at a very respectable position of a leading BPO? Would you still react in a similar manner the way you reacted today?

I have still not completed pooja. I still need to clear your doubts you have regarding the knowledge and other aspects of Callcentres. All these high profile people in our society, with their high profile jobs and their extra ordinary qualifications feel that they have got a license to speak any thing and everything for those people working in callcentres. Sorry If I am sounding rude this time, I have no intentions to speak anything negative about the high educated people in fact even I respect them because of their intelligence, their self motivation and their determination towards their work. They are actually role models for the upcoming generation but, just because they are blessed with superpower full position and degree they do not get a license to speak anything that hurts or ruins any ordinary men's image in the society. How easily they say," what’s the learning in a call centre? , now I want to ask them a simple question our older generation more then 50% were into the retail business of sales of stationary, grain merchant(retail), cloth merchant(retail) , fast food stalls etc, now can anyone please explain me what have they learnt in their entire professional life ?
Or I should say they have a PhD degree in sales of stationery items, selling books and pencils, selling icecreams, selling sarees and kids wear. In fact I have heard people saying" kya margin wala line hai ...bosss....kitna chaapta hai ". So now where is the learning? In fact they were known as respected businessman. What I am trying to convey is, up to certain age learning plays a very important role and if you are lucky enough you learn and earn for your entire life but, after a certain age there are responsibilities where you need your money, not your knowledge. What will a 27yrs old guy feed his son? Food or knowledge?
Still I am not done Pooja, you gave a pathetic reaction on Night shifts, are you aware about the profiles of nurses and ward boys in hospital, airhostess, people of hotel industry, people in army, air force.....do I need to speak anything more on this ? I think you are smart enough to understand, aren’t you ?

One more thing, Drugs, night life, alcohol.....still in your mind right? Pooja, all the people who are working in BPO are above 18. Do you understand the meaning of above 18? ADULT, ADULT who is mature enough to take his own decisions, who has a right to vote and when we talk about adults we should not forget that they need to take there own decisions, let them learn from their own mistakes, let them see this world in their own, We cannot spoon feed them all the time. That’s all what I wanted to say; now you decide......"

Hey guys, I am neither trying to change everyone's mind, nor I am interested to become a politician, my aim is to convey the message of peace and to politely request each and every individual of the society to respect each other as they are, remember guys everyone is not born with a silver spoon, you need to earn that silver spoon and that requires not only hard work but also love and support from the society.